Category Archives: Activism

Italian Homophobia Perserveres

I cannot help but speak out about the escalating homophobia in my mother’s home country of Italy (and where some of my father’s ancestors are from). The aspiring fascist prime minister there is trying to earn political points by stripping away lesbian mothers of their rights and legally breaking apart families. As a Board alum of six years, I reached out to FamilyEquality.org with my outrage as an Italo-American still eligible for dual citizenship and how this is clearly violative of the European Union’s higher courts, which I hope step in. Giorgia Meloni is making examples of some lesbian mothers by literally removing their names from birth certificates based on the non-biological ties to their own children. Now they are working on criminalizing surrogacy, just to round out the homophobia.

I constantly remind people that the equivalent of Italy’s founding fathers are both GAY – Leonardo Da Vinci and Michaelangelo, not to mention countless other Renaissance pillars, popes, etc.

This is exactly the kind of underhanded bigotry that we are still fighting against in what should be a modern world. As a gay parent, I am appalled, but very pleased that Family Equality Executive Director Stacey Stevenson replied to my pleas for the organization to make an official statement, which they have now done. This is a perfect response to these troubling developments:

Family Equality Condemns Rising Anti-LGBTQ+ Legislation in Italy Targeting LGBTQ+ Parents and Families

August 11, 2023

Soon after prime minister Giorgia Meloni issued a public order removing the names of nonbiological LGBTQ+ parents from their children’s birth certificates, the Italian parliament approved a bill that criminalized surrogacy abroad.

Washington, D.C. — Family Equality, the leading national organization for current and future LGBTQ+ families in America, condemns recent actions taken by the Italian government to undermine and diminish the rights of LGBTQ+ parents and families, including removing nonbiological LGBTQ+ parents from birth certificates and, more recently, approving a bill that would criminalize surrogacy abroad. 

With surrogacy and other reproductive medical treatments like IVF already prohibited for LGBTQ+ couples in Italy, this legislation not only denies LGBTQ+ people the opportunity to start their family — it threatens to put prospective parents in jail for even trying. The measure, which passed in the chamber of deputies with 166 votes in support, needs approval by the Italian senate before being passed into law. 

“Everyone deserves the opportunity to experience the unconditional joy and belonging of family, no matter who you love or where you live,” said Family Equality CEO, Stacey Stevenson. “What we’re seeing from the top elected officials in Italy is unconscionable. And yet, these actions reflect what we’re seeing outside our own front door, as politicians and pundits alike spout dangerous anti-LGBTQ+ rhetoric instead of focusing on passing legislation that keeps us all safe, healthy, and protected. To the LGBTQ+ families in Italy, know that we stand in solidarity with you and will fight with our partners in this international community to preserve your fundamental right to find and form family.” 

Got an Ad For Non-smokers in Lazybear Brochure

I’m very proud that I was instrumental in getting this free full-page ad for LGBTQMinusTobacco.org in the Lazybear Brochure this year! Thank you to the Lazybear Fund for showing there are those of us who care about this important aspect of gay men’s health in addition to all of the good fundraising it has done for AIDS/HIV research, their commitment to sober spaces at these events and also a mention of how important it is to respect everyone’s right to clean air from vapes and cigarettes when at events like this. Looking at Sonoma County’s unincorporated area smoking ordinances, there is definitely not enough adherence to the rights delineated for non-smokers in bar patios or resorts. There should be more responsibility taken by the business owners to ensure fresh air for all patrons.

Below is the ad I am holding above, which I’m so proud to have been involved with getting published in the Lazy Bear Week brochure. It’s a real quote from a real San Francisco bartender. Obviously, we opted to pick the most bear-ish ad for our audience out of many that LGBTQMinusTobacco.org has. For decades all aspects of the queer community have been specifically targeted by the insidious marketing tactics of Big Tobacco, so exposing this by fighting back with the diversity of the community that falls under the alphabet is helpful. Indeed, I was lucky and glad we had this on hand for the brochure when we had a tight deadline to reach to make the press. The gracious offer to include this gratis by the Lazy Bear Fund (a non-profit that has raised tens of millions of dollars over the decades for gay men’s health issues like HIV/AIDS) was in response to my email letter inquiry into the smoking culture that has unfortunately been integral even in crowded spaces at the event I’ve attended now for 17 years. To my pleasant surprise, they responded beautifully with this magnanimous offer. The brochure goes out to thousands of men who attend Lazy Bear Week, many of whom live or at least visit the San Francisco Bay Area regularly.

Italy and the EU

Shame on Italy. The gay news reports that some lesbian mothers are having their names removed from their children’s birth certificates to exercise their homophobic power.

Italy is my mother’s home country, where most of my relatives continue to live. The country may be risking a court overruling from the EU with this outrageous act of homophobia. I fought for years as part of what is now called FamilyEquality.org to make sure this kind of family destruction was not sanctioned by the United States in certain backward states.  Now EU member countries are trying to push the envelope and reverse all the progress Europe has made toward recognizing all types of families.

I wrote Family Equality hoping they make a statement condemning what Italy is doing and how the EU should respond.   As an Emeritus Board contact (with the honor of being listed on their website) and especially as an Italo-American, I am outraged to my core. 

The organization was known as Gay & Lesbian Parents Coalition INTERNATIONAL (GLPCI) when I was on the Board between 1996-2001.  While I’m glad they no longer have a trans-exclusive name, I do remember at our conferences having parents from other countries who wanted to see how the USA was securing rights for queer families like ours. 

Ravine Behind Wellfleet

Behind my home is a court, and behind that court is a eucalyptus forest of sorts, as one enters the ravine, which leads to the Benicia State Park adjacent to our Vallejo neighborhood. It’s a quick trip into the depths of the wild and a place I would have loved to venture into when I was a teen.

The purpose for going back was to make sure there was defensible space and clearance of brush up against some of the neighbors, which the City of Vallejo is responsible for clearing, especially since eucalyptus is incendiary and could cause major damage or tragedy if the trees die and collapse on a home.

This was a trigger to make sure the City of Vallejo did not neglect this part of its responsibility. Being President of Glen Cove Community Association this is something I am glad to be able to do on a volunteer basis.

Candidate Jackie Elward Chat

The United Democrats of Southern Solano had a great chat with Jackie Elward. Among other things, this was a very personal dialog where I shared a very personal story of my own that Jackie and I have dealt with — namely our biracial children being teased.

She starts talking about her son’s ideation from being bullied around 9:20 into the video and I get to respond to a few things that she said around the 30 minute mark.

Vallejo Seaweed Baseball – Glen Cove Day

Had a wonderful evening with the Vallejo Seaweed Baseball team at Wilson Park for “Glen Cove Day.” More pictures to come eventually on the galleries at Glencovevallejo.com. Many of the Glen Cove Community Association board members and other Vallejoans we know were there to support our local team against the team from Monterey (my dad’s hometown). Our VP Ralph Mariscal threw the first pitch.

Some pictures courtesy of Dina Morrison.

Fundraising for HSNB at Lucca’s Bar and Grill in Benicia

This popular dog-friendly restaurant in downtown Benicia was gracious enough to host us in their beer garden, giving 15% of all proceeds for the afternoon to Humane Society of the North Bay, the shelter where I volunteer as Treasurer with so many wonderful folks. Our President, Brenda Mooney, is at the microphone. We had a 50-50 raffle and an auction while taking donations also.

Our Friends Adopted Foster Ronaldo nka Rico

This is Ronaldo nka Rico when he was HSNB’s Pet of the Week! I love that he has ear-flop!

William and Carlos live right near us and found out that we were fostering a dog from the HSNB.org shelter that Shando and I volunteer with. We are so happy that Rico found a permanent home with them, especially since we’ll periodically get to watch young Rico grow with their family. This is what we call a foster success (because a foster “fail” is when we end up adopting a dog ourselves)!

Rico is an extra special case. The shelter was told after having a hard time reaching Rico’s guardians to remind them that he was due for a vaccine, that he had been struck and killed by a car. Then we got a call from the shelter in Sacramento when his microchip showed up! He came back to our shelter and I found out about it and asked to be an emergency foster.

What’s more, is that HSNB’s Cuddle Cub had Rico go around Vallejo to various senior living facilities and he was a hit. Not only that, he was at an adoption event that Shando and I attended this past February as you can see documented here on this website, and that is when we originally met him. So other volunteers at the shelter and I already had an established relationship with this little guy.