Category Archives: Activism

Ding Dong, Prop 8 is Dead!

Which old witch?  The bigot’s wish!  Sorry Judy, but the Mormon church and every other bigot (especially those adorning their hatred on front lawns and bumper stickers) can suck my Lolipop Guild.  Oh happy day!  The haters out of state and around the world have been put in their place by glorious jurisprudence.

I don’t even believe in hetero marriage, as I’ve said pretty much all along, but I’ll be damned if some people should be able to suffer while others cannot, and there truly are innumerable legal advantages to what marriage can bring (immigration alone).  My daughter’s classmate keeps pointing out that gay people have the right to marry (people of the opposite sex) but I can’t believe that rhetoric would even be taken seriously by those who spent money and time trying to limit the rights of a vibrant part of the population.

So congratulations to my home state, my father’s home state and the home of my grandparents and great-grandparents (to which I returned to live for the fifth time in 2007), for agreeing with almost half the voters (not that decisions of this magnitude should be made by propositions in the first place).  California realizes that we cannot remain in Draconian times by making endemic minorities systematically inferior.  I’m already embarrassed enough by our European neighbors who don’t have to think twice about these things.

My hope is that the case is indeed appealed to the Supreme Court of the United States, which generally does not put its fingers on domestic relations cases of any kind (although one could argue this is a civil rights case). Most cases that are brought to the US Supreme Court are not heard, and so the ruling of the federal Judges, such as this one, remain as law in good standing.  There is only a need to hear it if the Court feels like there was an error in interpreting the law, which in the federal arena, includes most importantly, the US Constitution.  On that basis, this decision is sound, and agreeing to hear the case could easily create a mandate that all states allow gay marriage, which is why the supporters of Proposition 8 had better be damn careful they don’t open up that Pandora’s box.  Still, I think it’s ridiculous to have a hodge-podge of gay marriage rights in one country.  Canada had that for a little while and it was seen as ridiculous, so they made gay marriage completely legal in every province.  Let’s have some common sense like they did.  Our grandchildren will be wondering what all the damn fuss was about.

I am also confident that no legislature in California would ever get the support it needed to overturn such a ruling and because of the Supremecy Clause of the US Constitution, it would be moot.  The haters should look at the bright side — the financial windfall that legalizing gay marriage necessarily brings to a jurisdiction should be welcome, especially by the party that touts fiscal responsbility and libertarian ideals of keeping the government out of our lives and by extension bedrooms.  Besides, California’s budget can use all the help it can these days, which is why even Republican Schwarzenegger wouldn’t have thwarted the gay marriage rights if it had crossed his desk and he had little to say in opposition to it.  Indeed, if it wasn’t for gay men, he may never have achieved the status that he had in his Hollywood career, which we all know was based almost exclusively on his physique and not his “talent” for acting.

The important line of the decision today was that there was “no rational basis” why one group would need to subject the other group to a position of inferiority.  Brace yourself for the backlash, my friends.  Gay Judge or not, the fight for righteous equality is not over.

Criminal case against BART Officer who killed Oscar Grant

There was no commotion on the BART on the way home the day of the verdict for my daughter and me, despite the marginally disappointing verdict.  I still think it was historic that a white “officer” (I don’t understand why BART police need guns in the first place) was charged with at least involuntary manslaughter for killing a black (unarmed, no less) man who had never been in any serious trouble with the law.  I still think the idea of him thinking he was reaching for a taser, which does not have a holster lock nor a safety log or a finger trigger, have nothing to do with what prompted him to shoot the obviously struggling young man who was on the ground with another cop’s knee into him.  It was something that I do believe his lawyer had suggested several days later that they issue to the press to excuse the homicide.  I think it was tantamount to gay panic by this rookie white security guard having “black panic” when there really was no reasonable cause for belief that Oscar Grant was armed.

That Rekers (like oxidized hypocrisy)!

I’m so reveling in the PERFECT HYPOCRITE squirming like a maggot:  “Rentboy.com Rekers” testified against gay parents because of neurotic suppression of his own gayness! Wake up people!

I can’t find anything online yet re Rekers’ wife; was she at home during this ten day trip to Europe with rentboy? What about all of his other “assisted” vacations?  UPDATE:  So now it is clear what Rekers was trying to protect in part:  he has a wife and sons (presumably grown) and he has finally admitted to some weaknesses and getting spiritual help that he needs, even though he’s clinging on to the claim that he was able to “counsel” his rentboy on being saved (presumably while he was enjoying the mandated naked massages that he insisted on paying for daily).

The lawyer in me cannot fathom how Rekers could be SO DUMB as to put his “contract” expecting intimacy in writing!  I believe they showed the document, with Rekers’ real name no less, in the CNN interview video with the waif, who was probably the one who provided it to them. I guess Rekers needed it in writing because was concerned he wouldn’t get his $75 worth every single day of his trip! I do not believe it required a happy ending!

At least SOME of the fortune Florida paid Rekers for his bigotry&self-loathing streams back to the community through his string of rented twinks, right?

Ann Coulter really needs attention…

Something tells me she’s been a rabble-rouser since preschool.  I’m not even going to dignify her by restating her obvious attempts to garner attention here, but suffice to say that she is playing the victim game.  This woman seriously needs to get laid, and according to her strict moral values she must, of course, be a virgin, because she has never been married.

RIP Gene Baugh

You were my friend with whom I had so much in common for so many years. You were a rock. I can’t believe this.

Just got terrible news about losing one of my closest gaydad friends in the world, Gene Baugh, in Columbus, who raised his five kids.  I read his autobiography, although I don’t think it was ever published.  He was a huge fan of the Spanish language and had spent time in Spain in his youth.  I flew to Columbus to be in his marriage to a man in 1998, and he and I also spent time together at various gay parenting conventions around the country.  We originally met in 1996 in Minneapolis and stayed in touch quite regularly the whole time, sharing the drama of our kids and our lives before and after coming out.  He was only 56, and a big bear of a man (also very tall).

His daughter, Ruth, who lives on the West Coast now, as I do, went with my daughter and me to our first Provincetown Family Week.  Ruth and I recently got back in touch with each other and today she emailed me with the news that he had been taken off life support as he had requested be done if he should ever be in this state.  He had a stroke on Friday.