Category Archives: Family

Daughter’s Name Change

As much as a Francophile as I am, I’m very glad that my daughter will no longer be Monique.  She is changing her middle name to Hayden when she becomes Mrs. Hernandez next month.  I think it will flow nicely and what’s fortunate is that she is one of the few women who can probably have a middle name that is suitable as a common name for a woman (and a man).  Think of Hayden Panettiere, the actress and dolphin activist.  She was very sweet when she brought the subject up because she knows that my niece’s middle name is Hayden, something my sister Sabina did when we feared there would be no more Haydens in our line, but now I have a nephew to rectify that.  Alex is also considering giving her kids the middle name Hayden, which fortunately does work for both genders.  Monique was just something I thought sounded nice, but Hayden is something more special and personal.  I do wish there was some indication that she was Italian in there, but her name is already going to be a mouthful.

Approaching Vegetarianism

Even before I started only being able to eat so little due to the sleeve surgery, I had toyed with the idea and had avoided the most bone-exposed eating for a long time.  In my twenties I even went eight years without eating red meat or pork (only poultry and a little fish), but definitely gained a lot of weight.

Life is different now.  I’ve learned that many smart people (like Einstein) became vegeterian in their later years.  I’ve seen lots of documentaries and less biased reports about the the health benefits of a much smaller amount of meat consumption and I really like the taste and texture of (usually cooked) vegetables.  I find them easier to digest.  I’m still not convinced I should not have dairy or eggs, but I do think we can humanely treat farm animals that yield us these products.  World sustainability is important, and also getting nutrients in the small amount of food I’m able to eat is important to me as I am no longer required to be on many medications.  It helps that my daughter and her fiance live and work in Berkeley, where the slow food movement was founded, and that they often have vegan weekends and/or go on raw food forays.  They don’t use microwaves or have many of the things that my daughter enjoyed eating very much growing up.  She’s always liked a wonderful variety of cuisines, but her tastes have become even more exotic and experimental, yet still prudent and wise.

Uncle Andy Killed in a Plane Crash October 15 in Half Moon Bay, California


Andy and I had not been in close contact at all since  shortly after my grandfather died in 1992.  Grandpa had been predeceased by his youngest son, my father, in 1990.  A few years ago, on a sentimental whim, my mother and I discovered that Uncle Andy was living in Florida very close to one of her friends, and she gave him a quick call, but he didn’t seem interested in staying in touch despite our connection to our dad.

It’s sad Uncle Andy died, of course, and in this tragic way, as he was the last member of my father’s immediate family to pass away, but I was definitely not close with him for a very long time, even though I had regular contact with him growing up.

Many of my relatives knew my Uncle Andy as “Corky”.  Like my father, Andy was born in Monterey, California, so not all that far from where he died.  Despite this he is being described as a Florida man, although he had lived in many places, including Scotland, Hawaii, New Zealand, Australia, Guam, San Diego, Alameda California and Half Moon Bay itself for years.  Even more strangely was that my father started dying himself almost 22 years ago from an aneurysm when he was in Half Moon Bay on his fishing boat with my uncle, who drove him to the Saint Rose Emergency Room (in rush hour traffic) all the way to Hayward, California, where I live now and where my mother still lives.  It’s kind of creepy how they both faced their death in the same town about ninety minutes’ drive north of where they were both born.  My father had his ashes scattered by the Coast Guard, in which he served for 27 years, a bit further up the coast, in Marin County.  My grandfather, also a veteran, had the same thing done with his and his wife’s ashes.

Coincidentally it seems like the journalist who wrote some of these article has the same last name as my uncle and me.  I will cross-post a few of the articles below.

The first of these has my second cousin, Dr. Kevin Sowles, in Arizona, describing my uncle from his perspective.