My cane certainly didn’t keep anyone from running into me, but a lot of fun still.
My cane certainly didn’t keep anyone from running into me, but a lot of fun still.
Spring came very late this year in New York. There were hardly any blooms and the trees were still bare. There were even brisk days to come during the days we were there in late April. Still, it was wonderful to be near my old stomping grounds.
I found out one of my good friends (and fellow Yorkie owner) from NYC Michael DeMarsico died a few days ago at the age of 44. I know everyone says only good things about those who have died, but he was truly pure to the core and must have had perfect karma, despite the tragic nature of the disease that took him at such a young age. He was a prolific writer and loyal friend and was survived by his husband and his dog Chloe. I cherish the long emails we had together over the past two decades and the countless coffees and social events I shared with him. I’m so glad I saw him on my last trip to NYC in 2014 (one of the pictures with Chloe is below) when he was already struggling with some of the symptoms of MSA, but he was STILL making jokes about it as he lost motor function. Every time I started to feel the tiniest bit sorry for myself when I had limited mobility this past four months I thought of people like him and so many others suffering, like the children of Syria and the refugees all over the world whose problems dwarfed my inability to walk without crutches. Now that I’m healing and I know I’ll make a full recovery, I hope to return to NYC for the celebration of his life in a month or so. I could only hope to be as genteel and brave as Mike was facing a painful and slow death head on. I’m sure he will be immortalized by his writing. It was at his behest that he not have a funeral but rather a party for his friends, which only demonstrates that he was a total class act. Rest in Peace sweet man.
My daughter, Alexandra Hayden, owner of Bossbabe, using an alias in homage to the “(She-) Wolf of Wall Street,” was on a panel at NYU (where I used to teach as an adjunct for a few years). I’m so proud of her continuing the media involvement that I’ve been doing since she was a little girl.
I certainly never saw these parts of Manhattan before and I regret that I didn’t get to explore it even more. My friends live nearby on Cabrini Blvd., so I usually stay with them there and should be able to check out the cloisters and such again in the future.
I have a long history with the Twin Towers going back to the late 1970’s when they were only a few years old. I have footage of them from my apartment window on Governor’s Island elsewhere on this site in color back then. I was there in NYC when the towers fell and interviewing for a job on the 76th floor of one of them a few weeks before September 11. I document that on this site in great detail as well. I happened to be at this event just as the last few windows were being put on the Freedom Tower and the museum was open for the survivors and first responders. A friend of mine actually got tickets for immediately after but it didn’t work out for my schedule. The thought of him suggesting that I go with him was very touching, though, as I don’t get back to NYC all that often these days.
Much has changed on Christopher Street since I moved away from NYC, but I still have a ton of nostalgia for this area which was so formative in my coming out process. I still feel a sense of strong envy for those who live in such a dynamic area and in the amazing buildings that will survive centuries more than they already have. Fortunately the streets were closed for a vendor fair when I waltzed down and took this video with my friend Steve.